A lot of people of marriageable age sometimes find that even though they are ready for marriage, they have no partner to marry. This can be very daunting especially with outside pressure from family, friends and the society in general.
This article aims to show how to navigate this period with beautiful patience until Allah SWT grants you a spouse by His grace and favor. It centers around some of the beautiful names of Allah SWT and also includes some Du'as.
Know that He knows:
Allah is Al–Alim (the knower of all). He is also As–Sami (the hearer of all), Al-Basir (the seer of all) and Al-Khabir (the all-aware).
He knows all that ails you and is aware of how much anguish you are in over the lack of a spouse. He hears your call and sees your plight. He knows that your heart aches and yearns for a partner. And He has not forsaken you. So on the days and nights that you feel the most alone, remember that even if the world is blind to your yearnings; Allah is your creator and the One in whose Hands your affairs lie. There is never a moment that He is unaware of your troubles. So know that He knows what you are going through and do not despair.
Know that He can:
Allah is Al-Fattah (the opener), there is no door that He cannot open, including the door to marriage.
He is Al-Jami (the gatherer), the One who will raise the dead and the living, bringing them together on the last day, effortlessly. He is the only one who can bring you and the one made for you together. He is Al-Muiz (the bestower of honor), and Allah bestows upon whomever He wills. If you believe that marriage to your beloved will bestow upon you honor, then know that no one is more pleased with marriage than Allah SWT. Also, if Sabr (patience) is hard during this time, remember that only Allah can grant you the most beautiful form of patience.
Know that He will:
Allah SWT is Al-Mujib (the responder to prayer). He has promised Muslims over and over again in the Quran of His unwavering support. Your Lord is shy of His creations and hence will never turn you away with unanswered prayers. It is in His might to respond, and He will in His mercy.
He is also Al-Wajid (the finder). Whatever you seek in a spouse, Allah already knows and He has the power to find it for you. It is in tying our camels that we must seek halal means of connecting with our spouses, one of which is a matchmaking service provided by our website. It is however in knowing that He will find them for us that we do not lose patience with Him and continue to strive.
A Surah to hold on to:
Allah granted us the Quran as a companion on our journey through life. A lot of scholars have also described the Quran as a manual to living in this Dunya and attaining the Akhira, granted by our Creator.
When waiting gets overwhelming, we need all the footholds we can reach to keep us afloat. The Quran is a major source of comfort and reassurance in those moments. While there are many others that you should definitely reflect on for some relief, Surah Ad-Duha is the Surah that has been handpicked for you during this arduous phase.
It is a Surah that reminds us when we forget Allah's presence, or when we simply cannot feel it in our lives. It is a Surah that reminds us when we are at our lowest, that help is near. It is a Surah that gives hope of victory, where all seems to be lost. It is a Surah to hold on to.
By the morning sunlight,
and the night when it falls still!
Your Lord ˹O Prophet˺ has not abandoned you, nor has He become hateful ˹of you˺.
And the next life is certainly far better for you than this one.
And ˹surely˺ your Lord will give so much to you that you will be pleased.
Did He not find you as an orphan then sheltered you?
Did He not find you unguided then guided you?
And did He not find you needy then satisfied your needs?
So do not oppress the orphan,
nor repulse the beggar.
And proclaim the blessings of your Lord.
Beautiful Du'as from Allah's Names:
Every part of a Muslim's life, whether good or bad, is deemed better for him in Islam. Therefore when good happens, we are thankful, and when bad happens, we are repentful. Such is the beautiful path the Muslim takes.
Waiting for a spouse can be daunting. Depending on how much you want it, or how long you have waited for this, our yearnings vary. Loneliness and the desire for companionship is however one of the most heart touching experiences a Muslim will have to wait through.
Dhikr and Dua is the Muslim's weapon to fighting all trials. It is also all that we need to conquer all of our troubles. We just have to humble ourselves in Allah's sight, and place all of our wants and needs at His hands.
Here are some beautiful Du'as coined from the beautiful names of Allah SWT to get you started.
Allah promised us in the Quran that all believers will be tested. While some are tested with loss, some of us are tested with other things, including having to wait for things that we deeply desire.
This is not a punishment from Allah. It is also not because He no longer cares about you. It is a test that the most pious of Muslims have gone through. It is a test that clearly defines and affirms our absolute trust in Allah. It is a test that we can and will pass by His mercy, bi idhnillah.
May this waiting period only come with good for you. Just like dawn after nightfall, may it come to an end with the most beautiful soul by your side. When you finally get to meet, may they be worth the wait.
This article was written by Sr. Rahmat Omole for ilmnikah.com. ilmnikah.com is a blog and a matrimonial platform for single Muslims living in the United States, Canada, UK, Turkey, South Africa, Morocco, Egypt, Australia, New Zealand or Germany. Visit our homepage and sign up to receive email updates from us. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Clubhouse and Telegram.
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